The Husband and Wife Merger
Human Sexuality
The Greeks have seven words for love while the Hebrews have nine. With almost a million words in the English language, we only have one. How inadequate! Most people do not know the true meaning of love. Modern society uses the word love to mean everything from Spiritual devotion to God to immoral sexual passion; from preference for a fast food restaurant to marital faithfulness and from one's enjoyment of a weekly sitcom to a choice of a soft drink. Surely there is a difference between sex and love and it is time we understood the difference. It was God who invented sex. Mankind misunderstands the meaning of love and sex and as a consequence misuses and abuses it.
Spiritual Dynamics
Because human nature is complex; because the dynamics of human behavior is not fully known nor can it be accurately determined and because the study of the mind is an inexact science, it is only with the help of God that comfort, understanding and direction can be achieved. We believe that the Bible is the greatest psychological textbook ever written and that the greatest Counselor to ever walk the face of the Earth is Jesus Christ, the Mighty Counselor, the Prince of Peace.
Stress Identification And Handling
Life is a discipline in stress management. Rarely do we see any benefit deriving from stress; hence we spend most of our time trying to avoid it. The sad result is that we never develop problem-solving skills, spending most of our time trying to avoid it. The sad result is that we never develop problem-solving skills and spend most of our lives living with stress. We spend our time thinking about a new job, planning a different home, looking for a new church or new marriage partner. The mistaken notion is that a stress free life will be enjoyed when this happens. However, stress does not change with a change in circumstance but with a change in our attitude towards the problem. You can live a happy and productive life in the midst of a stress-filled society.
Personality and Interpersonal Conflict
Human beings are social mammals and need each other to be well balanced. Because our personalities differ, as do our faces, conflicts arise over such things as value differences, tastes and preferences, likes and dislikes, mode of operation, background experiences, reactionary patterns, etc. Since human nature fiercely resists change, we spend most of our time trying to change others. This is not a good scenario for meaningful relationships. Understanding the dynamics of interpersonal relationships will enable you to relate to others without compromising your beliefs or loosing your identity.
Marriage And Family Relationships
Marriage was ordained by God and is an honorable estate, which is desired by most people. Statistics however, write a sad commentary on modern society; 3 of 5 marriages end in divorce. Of the two remaining, one continues in a state of misery and defeat. The majority of marriages are subsequent marriages; US and World news describe marriage North American style as little more than "Conjugal Succession." You can have a happy marriage! It is your rightful heritage. It must be remembered that there are no ready-made marriages. Happy marriages are built!
Marriage is not a 50-50% relationship. It is a 100-100% relationship, where both mates willingly do their best to make the other partner satisfied. A marriage partner is not limited stockholder in a fragile company, neither is marriage a partnership. It is a merger where two become one and the same. Marriage at best is a concession and a demand; if it is to succeed it will do so only as both partners willingly concede to the other and happily shoulder the responsibility that the marriage and family role places upon them. The effort pays huge dividends. It is worth it!
Personal Growth And Development
If a person is emotionally and/or physically hurting and scared, it doesn't matter how well adjusted a spouse may be, how secure the work place is or how friendly others may treat him/her; that person will experience many difficulties. Since change is an internal dynamic, the first place to look is within. Our goal is to help people achieve the potential for which they were created. Reach for it! You are here in earth by grand design and for a high calling.
The inferiority complex, feelings of worthlessness, failure and a poor self-image is a leading cause for a host of problems. This may include poor job performance, discouragement, domestic violence, substance abuse and more. The cause for such feelings is deeply rooted in past experiences, which must be dealt with. The road to success begins with recognition of who we are and what our purpose for life is. You can become a New You!
Dysfunctional Problems
A person, who has functioned well in the past but now finds it hard to get enthusiastic about life, has difficulty in completing a task, is inefficient and performs poorly, has become dysfunctional. Life is a cause and effect relationship. Once the cause for dysfunctional performance can be determined, corrective steps can be taken to change the behavior. The problem may not be severe. Free yourself to become the person you were destined to be.
Emotion And Attitude Control
A great deal of emphasis is placed upon feelings. Most people are led to believe that they are emotional puppets dancing from strings pulled by others and/or circumstances. Statements like, "You make me mad"; "I fell in love"; "The situation depresses me"; "I didn't plan it - it just happened", absolves a person from all responsibility and accountability. The fact is that no one controls you. You are in charge of your emotions, attitudes and behavior. This is great news because it means that you can control what you feel, who you are, how you react and who you will become. Emotions are controllable, exchangeable and replaceable. Plan for greatness!
